The Ultimate Debate

I woke up this morning with a headache, as usual. I could have slept another 2 hours, but am instead wide awake writing this. Lucky you. The topic on my mind this morning is want vs. need. Would you rather be wanted or needed? Of course, I mean in the personal relationship category, not the "mommy" one. In the past, I had a very quick answer to this. I have always felt that I needed to be doing something. I needed to take care of someone, and in turn, it was necesarry for me to feel NEEDED. I wanted the other person to rely on me, not to be able to live without me. When that was gone, I felt empty, with no purpose. If I am not able to take care of someone, what good am I? This morning it hit me!!!!! I want to be WANTED. I realized there is a difference. Doing someone's laundry, making them dinner, paying bills, running their errands.....all that does not make a person love you. It makes them use you. It makes them rely on how easy you make their life, but at the end of the day all you are to them is an "employee", a person that suits their needs and nothing more. SO now I have changed my own perspective. I do not want to be needed. I want to be wanted. For that person to just want ME and not what I can do for them. To enjoy the time we spend together and not just how clean I keep the house or how good my meatloaf is. When asked , "Why are you in love with her?" I want the response to be something other than a household duty. I think I am on the right track in that department. Time will tell. It always does. :).